Embracing Sadness in Grief
When someone gently says to you, "Your person would want you to be happy," they speak from a place of tenderness. Of course, your loved one would wish for your happiness, for you to always have the richness and fullness of life you shared together. Yet, when your well wishers encourage you in this way, they never really want you to deny your grief. If they understood the peril of doing that, of pushing away your grief, they would never want that for you.
When someone says this, it’s often their own sentiment surfacing. They yearn for your happiness because your sadness unsettles them, shakes their comfort. But sadness is here to stay, an enduring companion in the landscape of our emotions. How could we not mourn the absence of those we love so deeply?
If you find yourself trying to suppress your sadness, you are completely normal.
Grief is not a shadow to be banished, but a vital thread in the intricate tapestry of our lives. It demands its place, and rightfully so, in the story of who we are and who we will become. Sadness is real, and it is welcome. It moulds us, reminding us of the profound love we lost and the resilience we find as we move forward.
So, let us allow our sadness to be present, let it ebb and flow alongside our joy, and embrace the full spectrum of our human heart. In this acceptance, we discover healing, and the eternal presence of our loved ones, written throughout our lives. Through this, we understand that our grief is not a burden but a testament to our love, a piece of our soul's journey, forever intertwined with the memories of those we have lost.
